Failure Isn’t Your Destiny
Are you at a place where you have no sense of direction? That’s OK, we have all been there. Everyone’s plagued with doubt at some point, regret and second thoughts but so what that’s life man up. It’s part of our human condition. Sometimes, I’ll wake up in the morning stare at celin just lie there, wondering whats going on–am I really happy ? Or are the skeletons rattling in that memory closet still plaguing ?
There are moments from my past I’m not very proud of, and I know you can relate to that. if I ponder them too long, they will piss me off. I don’t regret my present path and what waits at the end of it, neither do I regret my pass but Lord forgive me of all my sins and let me in haven. Honestly, I don’t want to live with the specter of what should have been or might have been hanging over me and end up in hell so Instead, I sweep those doubts and evil thoughts away, and soldier on. My father set the example. But it’s difficult, I’ll admit. The struggle is a never-ending battle.
Whenever I feel the walls closing in, I seek out a place of solitude, so I can spend time alone and not do anything. I wait. I ponder. I think. I sometimes wonder what would the outlaws have done. And in that quietness, the enemy reveals itself, and I understand what road to follow next. And should the enemy remain hidden, at least I’ve had quality time for reflection. That’s an essential. Search within and find strength. Guess what most will think your a nut case but who cares what they think.
Be your self It’s an approach I even bring to the gym. There are a lot of you out there who have a lot of questions… I receive mail all the time asking me things like, how do you become an IFBB Pro? How can I gain five to ten pounds of muscle? What’s the secret of the pros? I’m having problems putting on size. If I flex my calves in the middle of a Orgasm will the orgasm be more intense. Let me give you some advice.
Don’t listen to the negative bullshit, spend time alone, trust your own intuition not mine. Look if your feeling depressed and down? A nice intense kick ass workout will always help pull your head out of your ass. Step out of your comfort zone and do what needs to be done man up and stop crying. Maintain a steely-eyed focus. There’s much to be said for the power of positive thinking and no I never read the book called The Secret and guess what I never will.
Bad times never last forever, be like Jesse James those out laws had it right never give up.Remember, giving up is never an option! example In the gym, my grip on the bar will be different than yours. It might not be the same amount of pressure applied that you would use. my grip might be wider or closer, but it works for me. Ultimately, what you’ve got to do is handle the weight in a way best for your own body. People might tell you you’re doing it wrong, and that’s what I meant about the negativity. Find what’s right for you. Forge your own pathway. No on likes a copy cat bottom line.
Also, you must be realistic about your potential and your talents. You need to take a serious self-assessment. Look at the people who audition for American Idol; the majority of them have deluded themselves into thinking they’re good singers. Not only good, but the next American Idol! And it comes as such a shock when the judges tell them, “hey, you suck.”Why? Because they’re living in a dream world, surrounded by people who plug into their personal fantasy and feed it, that’s why. They do them wrong by not being truthful. You can’t get an honest assessment from your mom; she’ll say, “you’re the best.” Don’t go to your girlfriend for an unbiased opinion. You need the opinion of someone who’s not emotionally attached. That’s the only way to grow.
Believe me most professional athletes and Judges can smell snake and bull shit miles away so keep it real with us. Honesty doesn’t mean failure. It means seeing things as they are, without the rose-colored glasses. The cold, harsh glare of reality is a wake-up call, in my opinion. It’s like those quiet times–you’re allowed an opportunity to regroup and rethink. I can’t emphasize enough the benefits of self-assessment. Relating this to the gym is easy.
So many people have good intentions about their training. They have an image in mind of what they want to look like. Then, the hard work comes crashing down on them, and they suddenly realize this is going to take time. It won’t happen overnight, it won’t happen in a month, and it might not even happen in a year. That realization is oftentimes overwhelming, resulting in the person giving up. The reason for failure is simple: they haven’t done a serious self-evaluation.
Failure isn’t your destiny. Far from it. The power to erase doubts and nagging fears is within you. Have faith and soldier on kick some ass in this world believe me this world needs more real men–and before you know it, a goal will be attained, you’ll be ready for the next challenge the world throws at you. The steps from here to there are minor, yes, but they’re the difference between singing in the shower and becoming the next American Idol! Just like the difference between the gym bully and a IFBB Hall Of Fame. Look in the mirror and say to your self ” I’M BAD TO THE BONE”